We
often do things because that is the way it has always been done. We stay with the same people because they
are the people we have been around for years. We look at things in a particular
way because that is how we have always thought about it.
We rarely take stock of our lives, our relationships, our habits.
And
we rarely even think about the need to make changes.
Oftentimes we have taken up occupations that we may not enjoy much. The working environment is not conducive or we may be doing things that we are not interested in. A good number of hours every day are not put to optimal use and the output is not be as good. Not only are we dissatisfied with life but the organization also suffers as we may not put in the right effort.
In
our personal lives as well, we may often be in a relationship that drains us. It
could be with one’s partners, within the family or among friends. It could
be people that belittle us, take advantage of or abuse us (intentionally or un-intentionally).
We may not even think twice about it but such relationships often undermine our
own sense of confidence and self-worth.
It
is important to do one’s best in the workplace or try hard to make
relationships work – but it is critical that one occasionally takes stock of
things.
Sometimes
it is necessary, for one’s own happiness and wellbeing, to face the situation and
make informed and rational decisions to accept change.
And
it may be necessary to make the change when one still has the energy to do so.
Am sharing below a story about the Boiling
Frog Syndrome. I found it interesting and I hope that you will not only
find it interesting but it will also help you embrace change, when needed.
The Boiling Frog Syndrome
Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water.
Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water.
As
the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body
temperature accordingly.
The
frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature… Just when the water is
about to reach the boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore…
At
that point the frog decides to jump out…
The
frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it has lost all its strength
in adjusting with the rising water temperature. Very soon the frog dies.
What
killed the frog?
Many
of us would say the boiling water…
But
the truth is that what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it
had to jump out.
We
all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we
need to adjust and when we need to confront/face.
There
are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate action.
If
we allow people to exploit us physically, mentally, emotionally or financially,
they will continue to do so.
We
have to decide when to jump.
Let
us jump while we still have the strength!